Wednesday, April 22, 2009

What Happens...


Here I am thinking, as I normally do, but this time is about love. Not that I am in a relationship but I wanna be in one and I am thinking bout how to make it to the longevity that you here people speak of, the 10 year, 13 year, 15 year, and I dare say 20 year relationships, I want to know how they do it. I know me, I get bored fast. I lose interest. I like new and exciting things all the time. So, What happens when the love is not as intense? What happens When some new thing tempts you and is fun and nice? What happens? How do you handle it? I need to know because I want this love that I hear of I want to be prepared when the love dies. I know that love alone does not maintain relationship. What does and how do u do it? PLEASE,help a brotha out!

2 comments:

MarshaHilley said...

I am almost 40. I was married before at a very young age, by choice, not because I got pregnant. Most assume I was pregnant because I was so young, but no, I was just stupid, young and what I thought was in love. We stayed together 7 years after marriage and had 2 of the best kids in the world. The love just couldn't last for me for many reasons to complex to explain. Mainly because I really didn't know what kind of man I was marrying. I met, fell in love and remarried my second husband a year later, and the love has never died, only gotten stronger with each passing day. You have to find that one that gives you the best of all the worlds you are a part of. For me it was first and foremost as a parent, and second it was as a woman. There has to be something after the kids go to bed and after the kids are grown, which mine are now, 21 next month and almost 19. I know for some people the thrill is over after the new wears off. It has been 15 years, and I promise you this, when I see my husband walk in the door every single night, balding and all, my heart still skips a beat!!

Anonymous said...

I agree with MarshaHilley ... it is about finding THAT ONE FOR YOU. When you find it, you know IF you let God prepare you. This means you might make a few missteps and fall for people who you THINK are for you first, but that's only so you can know the REAL THING when you see it...I have been with MINE for almost four years now. I have not gotten tired of him walking through the door yet and that is saying something.

NVNCYBLE, you have to trust that GOD does not plan to tease you your whole life. If you commit to the learning process and be WILLING to get your heart broken to find that special one, he will provide them for you. It will be a person that no matter how old you get, no matter how much you may piss each other off, you can't seem living life without them. Trust that GOD has someone like that JUST FOR YOU.