Friday, May 8, 2009

Could You...


Imagine meeting the one! I mean the person who makes you smile and warm on the inside! The person who makes you tell your mom about them. The person who makes your friends upset because he has more you than they do! Wouldn't be great to have this person?

But, you knew there was gonna be a but, with a person that GREAT, the only thing is you would NOT be able to have sex. For whatever reason be it health or mental Sex cannot happen between you two. Could you and would you? Is sex that important. Now let's play real dirty!

What if this great man or woman said you could have sex with any one but just not him/her but you would maintain a great relationship. Or, what if he said, "I need to only have sex with this kind of person, you can watch and you can do whoever you like and I watch." Would you and could you? OK yall comment below!

11 comments:

Mike Huntington said...

Sometimes just loving and being around that person is good enough ... I don't know about having them have sex with other people lol.... but NOT having sex isn't the end of the world

Antroine said...

Whoa! Well part II of your question is simply "No"! Absolutely not.

For me, if ima be in a relationship and love 1 its gonna be a full commitment (sex included).

Now Part I, ughhh, i dunno what to say really. Sex is important to a relationship. I know that doesn't really answer the question but... thats imo

Anonymous said...

chyyyyle I don't know. this is one of those 'need to experience' type situations..I don't know how I'd be able to maintain a healthy relationship with said man if I'm sharing my body with another.

-drea

Andresflava said...

its all or nothin. sex isnt the world but if i am wit u i am not sharing u

Francis Andre said...

Woooooahhhh!!! ;-) At a lost for words with this one Morris, I'm sure you can answer this for me!

Anonymous said...

So reading this touched a spot in my heart that i hadn't touched in months. I was lucky enough to be with that one person who was everything you described but we had a different "BUT" and in the end it tore my world apart. But today im such a better person because of it :-)

Anonymous said...

mmmmm......I've met this type and the come and go for me...

Prince Xzavier said...

well, i see it as this: if you have a deep connection with a person and you consider yourselves compatible that makes someone your friend. some individuals use the term friend loosely, however i do not. what makes that specific person a lover is the intimate connection you both willingly share. in order 2 have a good lover, you must first be friends correct? so therefore if there is no intimate connection shared, then that person is merely just a good friend of yours, nothing more or less!

Saint_L0uis said...

I think as I've gotten older and gained wisdom I can look past the sex aspect of the relationship if this person is "The ONE". I'm more about the mental vs physical if I had to choose.

Kemet said...

Wow.....I could easily forgo sex. My first impression when I thought of the other person having sex with people and I could watch or whatever. It sounds kinds freaky & sexy. But I would always be afraid that they might fall in love or in lust with the fuck buddy, leaving me high & dry. Hell, there is soooo much more to a relationship than sex. But third parties coming into it would make me nervous. But each couple gets to define their own relationship. And they get to define their own parameters & limits. Great question BTW!

jAyIzMeE said...

First and foremost, that was a great post. Okay speaking on a personal perspective because I can't vouche for others but sex is a very intimate thing, it's very mutual and the bed which takes place is very sacred, (or wherever I choose to have sex) because it is my personal space. I do believe sex is a very important part of a one on one true and real relatiionship, because I am a believer that it is considered a very intimiate body behavioral form of communication that I do not share with everyone, meaning that I have to be really diggin' you to even take it that far, so if in fact this supposed man of my dreams that you just described he can't too much be the man of my dreams because if I can't have sex with him then that is definitely a no go...and then to have sex with someone else and I am with this man will not give me that self-satisfaction being that I am supposedly with the man of my dreams. Intimacy(both physical, emotional) love, honesty all coincide in a relationship in MY EYES!! =D