Wednesday, May 20, 2009

You play too much...


I have figured out this thing call life is really about playing a game. A game that people who have siblings do better than those of us who were raised as only children. The rules are funny because they seem not to have changed over the generations. Older people have spoke on it at cook outs and other family gatherings and anywhere where brown liquor is available. I think that may just be my family. I have figured out there are games with family, games in love, and games with friends.

As a person as an only child, I had to make and fight my way up the social ladder. I had to learn some things but I am still, at 32 figuring somethings out. Like Love, or finding love is really a game. The whole thing from meeting someone until the moment of breakup it is a game. For you people with brothers and sisters you learn this game from them. I cannot help but think maybe this is is why I am single. I don't know how to play this game. What I know is how to be honest and acting on my honesty. The funny thing is in this game that is not enough, I mean that is good and people want that, however people want to play this game! Now, let me say this, I am not losing the game but playing it has made for life to be different and sometimes difficulty. The funny thing is people who play the game and expect other to play think i am playing when I am honest.

I don't know bout this game, I don't. I wonder why people still wanna play games , well at least these kinda games. I guess until I make my own game I am gonna play their game!

15 comments:

JoJo on the GO! said...

games are fun.... but not all games should be taken seriously. love is like a battlefield, while life can be a game easy or hard depending on which road is traveled.

jerzey_reality said...

I aint got no time for games lol...but u aint neva lied cuz sometimes it def feels like a game..sometimes u win and sometimes u lose and it's crazy when ur being totally upfront and honest and people think your playin games..or worst yet when they play games wit u...good post

Larry L Walker said...

Nice...I personally think that the person who is honest and operates in a way that is true to his character, wins all the game there ever were. We waist time playing when we could be living and loving and having a wonderful life. No Games...No "Pass Go" and collect two hundred dollars...I want some real...Ya Digggg????

Jayson said...

That is so true. I dont know about the only child part but love is def a game. And for those who dont want to play it sux bein on the side line. But at this point in life I would much rather be a spectator than a player. Cuz Im jus too tired. But the worst part is... those who like to play prey on us honest folk and take advantage of that open honesty.

JoWork said...

Excellent Blog

Sometimes i feel we dont want to play the game anymore...once we have played so many different versions...i guess we realize that the rules are still the same..so for ourselves we need to realize is that if the game is played..we have to come up with a different way to approach it...

But nice blog man

Jon Perry said...

chil' this post looks a little familiar... we are thinkin just about, almost, nearly a like now. GREAT!

Jon Perry said...

chil' this post looks a little familiar... we are thinkin just about, almost, nearly a like now. GREAT!

jon perry said...

http://justbthat.com/blog/this-game-is-over.html

Keith Jones said...

Interesting analogy. Life and love can be compared to games, but the difference is more than one person can win and lose. Im not sure about the sibling thing b/c I have a younger sister and she does not follow my relationships and I don't keep tabs on hers much.

Mike Huntington said...

Being that I'm in a great relationship ... and happily married ... I can't relate lol. Nothing is a game when it comes to the heart.

KiyoDandre said...

I'm not sure I understand the correlation between siblings & this "game". I am certain; However, that love is not a game for I have not played any game that involves you showing all your cards & revealing your whole social/emotional/mental strategy. By experience & your theory I'd lose in that game.I believe love involves revealing YOURself & the other person doing the same.

Rico said...

it seems like people will never get tired or too old to play games, no matter what the situation to them if a "game" isnt involved its no fun for them.

C.Jones...Who? said...

Nvncyble, I understand. I recently was having a convo about how this upcoming generation has a strong sense of entitlement and a understanding that everyone is a winner, meaning if I just show up for class I ought to pass because I came, not because I did the work or Aced the work. I believe some people approach relationships the same. They believe just because I am in this thing it ought to work and if it doesn't it's not really my fault because I was present. Something must or has to be fundamentally wrong with the other person and their character or actions. Maybe the game is about knowing that we operate completely from the standpoint of equals. This would mean that we both have a part to play, and regardless of if anyone is more honest than the other, we both have to be committed to the relation and not stuck on whether one has done the most or who has been the most transparent. We're equally committed, but we both understand we bring differences to the table and not expect each other to be the same.
Maybe the commitment and the game is about sticking it out till we both get to a level of play that comes more naturally. It is possible that in the beginning when we first are getting to know each other that we run into knicks and burses/problems because we still are trying to figure one another out.
To get ahead or merely keep up, athletes study players and the game. They also constantly work on their ability to play the game. This doesn't mean the athlete will win everytime, but there is an understanding that I do more than play, I work to become better at the game. I become a part of the game, more than just an every now-and-then participant. I seek to master the game.
I say all of this to say that maybe the people who want to give up at the game are those who have not decided to stay committed to it. Those who cheat at the game always eventually get expoused. Running into cheaters is just a part of the game. It is not a time to quit the game or request for the game to stop. It is the time to acknowledge what is in front you and chosing how to continue. You can either continue with the cheater, take a sideline position to analyze your strong and weak points (things to work on), or just move to play with another team or player.
I could have taken this metaphor too far. But I do believe that John Legend had it right in saying that "everybody knows that nobody really knows how to make it work or even how to ease the hurt." In the end we eventually get back up and ask for one more try.
My two cents... great post.

IKrazyKid said...

It All About The Game And How You Play. It Im A Student Of The Game It's Teaching Me New Thing Everyday And Today Lesson Was Love Is A Battlefield Sometime You Win And Sometime You Lose, But It Can Be A Bitch Too Play At Times.

thegayte-keeper said...

I find that is better to watch others play this game and you do your thing despite of them...